I have said it before and I mean it, I love my stepdaughter. That being said, there are things she does that drive me crazy and from what I can tell, they are pretty typical behaviors for her age (13) and they drive all parental types crazy. Today’s example: not being able to find something that is literally right in front of her.
My stepdaughter has a fairly full summer agenda for a 13-year-old. She had camp, sports practices and meets, sleepovers and outings with friends. Many of these things cost money and at our house there are a chores/responsibilities that must be completed to earn the funds to have the fun. To help her manage her time and responsibilities, we leave a list daily of what needs to be accomplished before she leaves. This has been a struggle for her, as she, like many of her peers, would prefer to sleep late and watch YouTube until the very last second before walking out the door. Her list today included cleaning the windows on the kitchen doors. Knowing this would be met with texts and likely a call as to what she needed to use to clean said windows and where it could be located (all cleaning supplied are under the kitchen sink, yet she asks, EVERY SINGLE TIME), I put the window cleaner on the kitchen counter, next to the sink, by the paper towels were it could not be missed.
I did not hear from her, so so around lunch time I asked my husband if he had heard from her. He said he had, and I quote “she couldn’t find the window cleaner”. What? How is that remotely possible? When I say it was in plain view, I mean it could not have been in a more obvious location. I told him “I put it on the counter, how did she miss it?” Being her loving father, he looks for some logical answer to my sarcastic question, “I guess she was looking under the sink”. What? Did she walk into the kitchen and approach the sink with her eyes closed? Had she not eaten or had anything to drink (trust me, this is NOT the case, at 13, girls eat as much as boys)? There is literally no way humanly possible for her to have missed the large bottle of blue liquid staring at her from the kitchen counter.
“If it had been a snake, it would have bit you”- I could hear my grandfather’s voice in my head. We have all lazily looked for something, throwing our hands up and asking for help when the task of looking seems too much, only to be made to feel silly that whatever it was could be found in plain sight. This drove my grandfather insane, as he had no patience for whiny, needy children, a trait I have inherited from him. God love her, my stepdaughter gets to assume my role as I have now assumed my grandfather’s. But like he was with me, I want to help her become independent and able to think and do for herself. Yes, she found the cleaner and I can only assume she used it to accomplish her task, but I can’t help laugh at the fact that in trying to make it easier for her, somehow it became more difficult.